Seeking approval of others over God’s approval

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Have you ever thought “I wonder what they’ll think?” As you develop your relationship with Christ, you’ll have to learn to let go of seeking approval of others.  When you’re relying on other’s approval, you’ll experience your emotions – the way you feel every day- being affected by what people do or don’t do, by doors that open or don’t open and by things that happen or don’t happen.  The fact is, there are many reasons why we are distracted from growth opportunities that ultimately bring us peace.  One of the main ones is getting over your need to have the approval of others and understanding that the main approval that you need in life comes from God. REALLY getting this will bring peace to all of your fluctuating emotions.  But, how do you know if you’re a woman who is depending on someone’s approval more than God’s?


Are you seeking the approval of others over God?  Take this short quiz:

Find out if you’re seeking the approval of others instead of God’s approval by the number of “yes” answers you have to the following questions:

  • How many times have you hesitated on making a right decision because it would make someone disapprove of you?
  • How many times have you said “yes” when everything inside of you was screaming “NO!”?
  • How many times have you allowed your mind to run and re-run the negative things that someone said about you?
  • How many times have you chosen less for yourself because of what “they” might say?

All of these are indications that your emotions are being affected by someone else and you’re seeking approval of others.  It’s time out for any and all means of allowing someone…anyone…to subject you to their approval over God’s.  It’s time to stop caring about what people say more than you care about what God says.  It’s time for you to reclaim your power and your peace by centering yourself in God and His plan for you.  Separate yourself from worldly thinking, which says that you have to constantly ask other people what they think, and try asking God what He thinks.  Then, ask God to help you separate yourself from the people who expect you to seek their approval first, and even those whose opinions are still affecting you even though you aren’t even friends anymore.

Getting over the need to have their approval

This is exactly what David does in Psalms 31 as he comes to God in a time of trouble, appealing to His compassion and His grace.  In verse Seeking-the-approval-of-others11, David says “Because of all my enemies, I am the utter contempt of my neighbors and an object of dread to my closest friends…” he goes on to say in verse 13, “They conspire against me and plot to take my life. But I trust in you, Lord; I say, “You are my God.” My times are in your hands; deliver me from the hands of my enemies, from those who pursue me.”

In particular, David asked to be saved from his enemies and even his friends turned enemies.  His friends – who had observed his integrity – were hesitant to come forward and support his reputation.  They even spoke against his integrity!  If you’ve ever had someone hesitate to support you when they know you’ve always done the right thing, you know the betrayal David felt.  Still – he reaffirms his trust in God, in the face of fear and betrayal. His enemies had robbed him of his reputation among men, but they could not rob him of his comfort in God, because they could not drive him from his confidence in God.

Reclaim your peace


As a woman developing in Christ, looking for security and stability, one of the main things you must do is remove the stake you place in other people’s support and opinions of you.  Your emotions will be on a roller coaster until you do. Instead, you have to place ALL of your confidence in Christ.  You’ll experience stability and peace, because Christ is stable and unchanging in his love and care for you.  Malachi 3:6 says that “For I the Lord do not change…”.  When your stability is solidly in Christ, things that other people do or say will simply stop affecting you in the way it used to.  Remind yourself that the only approval you need is God’s approval, and choose today free yourself from the opinions of others.


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Erin Marie is a passionate lover of Jesus Christ, bestselling Author, compelling Speaker & Founder of BeautifulWildFree. She personally embraces a purpose of empowering women to rediscover their beauty, purpose and sense of self through a love-encounter with Christ. Connect with her online via Instagram, Pinterest & Twitter: @bwfwoman

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